Sometimes we need to be apart to understand just how much we love each other
Lately I felt the need to write about this movie. Actually I didn’t want to be cliché or else whatsoever but honestly I’m in love with Love itself so naturally I had to mention this movie on my Website: The Notebook. I first heard of it while watching the TvShow One Tree Hill in which I also learned the expression “to be notebooked” or “to have been notebooked”, basically someone who cries during the movie. Let’s have a little introduction from Wikipedia and then I will give you my thoughts…
Release date: September 8, 2004
Actors: Ryan Gosling (Noah Calhoun) and Rachel McAdams (Allison Hamilton)
At a modern-day nursing home, an elderly man, Duke, reads a romantic story from his notebook to a fellow patient.In 1940, Seabrook Island, South Carolina, poor quarry worker Noah Calhoun sees 17-year-old heiress Allison “Allie” Hamilton at a carnival and they have a summer love affair. Noah takes Allie to an abandoned house that he intends to buy for them. They try to make love for the first time, but are interrupted by Noah’s friend Fin with the news that Allie’s parents have the police looking for her.When Allie and Noah return to her parents’ mansion, Allie’s mother Anne calls Noah trash and they ban her from seeing Noah. Noah walks out and Allie chases after him. They have an ensuing argument and break up. The next morning, Anne announces that the family is returning home to Charleston. Allie attempts to contact Noah, but is unable to find him, so she asks Fin to tell Noah that she loves him. When Noah gets the message he rushes to Allie’s home, only to find the house gated up and empty.Noah writes to Allie every day for a year but Anne intercepts the letters such that they never reach Allie. Noah enlists with Fin to fight in World War II, where Fin is killed in battle. Allie volunteers in a hospital for wounded soldiers, where she meets captain Lon Hammond Jr., a young lawyer who comes from old Southern money. After a few years being together, the two become engaged, to the delight of Allie’s parents.When Noah returns from the war, his father has sold their home so that Noah can buy the abandoned house. While visiting Charleston, Noah witnesses Allie and Lon kissing at a restaurant; he convinces himself that if he restores the house, Allie will come back to him. Later, while Allie is being fitted for her wedding dress, Allie is startled to see in the newspaper that Noah has completed the house to the specifications she made years before.After Allie asks permission from Lon to take a little trip before the wedding, Allie returns to Seabrook to find Noah living in the restored house. The two renew their relationship and make love. Several days later, Anne appears in the morning on Noah’s doorstep to warn Allie that Lon has followed her to Seabrook. Anne reveals that, in her youth, she had been in love with a lower-class young man and was still thinking about him; Anne then gives Allie the letters that Noah wrote to her as an admission that she had hidden them from Allie. Subsequently, Allie confesses to Lon that she had spent time with Noah, and eventually returns to her relationship with Noah.In the present narrative, it is revealed that the elderly woman is dementia-stricken Allie, Duke is actually Noah and that he had been told by Allie during the early stages of her illness to reread their journals to help her recall her past. She briefly remembers Noah but soon forgets. Her ensuing panic forces medical personnel to sedate her. Noah suffers a heart attack and is sent to the hospital while Allie is sent to a dementia ward in the same hospital. Noah visits Allie’s room in the middle of the night causing her to remember him again and proceeds to remind her of her illness, though he reassures her that they can do anything with the love they share. While sleeping, both Noah and Allie pass away and a nurse discovers them in the morning.
Well, isn’t it the most beautiful story ever? probably not but it depends on the kind of love stories you are craving for. As far as I’m concern, I’ve always wanted to meet my husband at a young age and grow old with him but Life is so unpredictable, you can’t really know what’s going to happen. My last relationship four years ago was entirely based on that idea, I don’t think I was in love with him when I come to think about it, I think I was in love with the idea of him, of us having known each other in High school and reunited years later. We lived together for a year and a half and we broke up because we weren’t meant to be together, we were too different and expected different things from life: I want to be a Conference Interpreter and travel the World and he just wanted to live a simple life in the countryside. Anyway, it might have been the most difficult time of my life, seriously, I didn’t know I could suffer that much; four years later I’m still single because I can’t imagine going through something similar, and I don’t know what I want. People don’t really show their real intentions when coming at you and I don’t want to waste my energy on someone just because I don’t want to be alone. I’ve been there and now I have more self-love and respect for myself to not fall back into these traps. This movie helped me not to give up on Love, I still believe in Love.
Allison and Noah were meant to be together, they had a strong connection from the beginning and it wasn’t just sexually or physically, it was mentally and in every possible ways. They were best friends, they played together, they were young and they weren’t trying to pretend to be anyone else in front of each other. It was them against the whole World. Even when her mother tried to marry her off to a rich and handsome military officer, Noah was still Noah seven years later ! The kind of Love you can only see on TV.
Had I ever known this kind of Love with a capital “L”? I had… When I was very young, he was my first love actually. Funny thing is, he was in love with a friend of mine for a long time but she didn’t know it and at that time I was just fooling around with him, nothing serious, I wasn’t even trying to get him to fall for me or anything, it just happened. I was 11-12 years old at the time in Ivory Coast, it was before I move to France. I used to stay at my uncle’s house to be with my cousins’ because my dad was busy so it was more convenient for me not to be alone. He was my cousins’ neighbour and his sister was a good friend of my older cousin. Long story short, it was a bit complicated, me moving to France, having a new Life, meeting new boys and people etc, like I just said before Life is unpredictable and it failed ! Actually, I don’t even know if we had anything, in fact we never discussed about anything, let’s just say we weren’t meant to be together because I feel like some things were left unsaid, there’s a big question mark but we’ve grown up, we have our lives and I’m happy if he’s doing good so leave it in the past. Anyway, that was the first time I thought I would be with someone my whole life at such a young age, yearning for an Allison and Noah kind of love…
But what is love anyway? I mean do we actually love honestly or are we driven by the ideas that Society brings about all the time through movies and ads etc? I actually try to understand Love but I can’t put myself to find the exact answer so I thought about the kind of love that I would like to encounter if I happen to fall in love again in this lifetime… I think I would like to be pursued, courted, and how is that? I might sound a bit corny but a guy who offers gifts, flowers, knows exactly what you like and put in the efforts to be accepted by you because he knows your worth. This is the kind of relationship I would like to find, not the ego-based one in which you never communicate and it’s always about who’s going to take the initiative. My idea of love is very simple: destiny can’t be forced, if you are meant to be with someone, just be patient, he will come eventually and if he doesn’t, well, being by yourself is not a shame, Life has so much to offer !